Why Women Say They Aren’t Having Enough Sex

YOUR REACTION?
It’s time to debunk the myth that only men crave frequent sex.

There are plenty of myths and misconceptions when it comes to sexual pleasure. One of the most basic misconceptions that people have is that only men really enjoy sex. We assume that all men have a high libido and desire sex all the time, whereas we assume the opposite about women. We imagine that women only really desire romance and affection, and that they submit to sex merely to please their partners or to keep their relationship strong.

However, the fact is that women are also sexual creatures. Like men, women desire passion, excitement, and novelty in the bedroom, but in past generations, women were not able to safely express this desire due to fears of being ostracized or even attacked by society. Now, as we move into a more modern and open society, women are feeling more free and more uninhibited when it comes to expressing their sexual desires.

But that doesn’t mean that they are having the sex life of their dreams. According to a new survey performed in the U.K., twenty percent of women report that they very rarely have sex. Almost sixty percent said that they have sex twice a month or less, and around 10 percent said that they only have sex a few times a year.

Sex Makes Us Happy: So Why Aren’t We Having It?

Interestingly, when women did report having frequent sex (once or twice a week), they also reported higher levels of satisfaction and happiness in their lives. On the other hand, women who had infrequent sex were less likely to report feeling “very happy.”

So if sex makes us so happy, why aren’t we doing it more?

Part of the problem could be that we are still holding on to those old tropes mentioned above. Women want men to be the aggressors and the dominant partners who initiate sex every single time, because they have been socialized to believe that is how sex “should” look and that is what men “should” do.

But what if we stripped away those should’s and instead looked at sex as an activity that both partners should be actively and intimately involved in? What if instead of quietly stewing about how he hasn’t made a move and how he obviously isn’t attracted to you, you grab him for a deep kiss and initiate sex yourself?

Doing so will not only ensure that you will have more frequent sex, it will also ensure that you will have more passionate sex. You will feel more in control and more in touch with your own body, and you will feel powerful and sexy when you see how turned on he is by your new wild side.

The truth is that it is quite a simple equation—more sex equals more happiness and more bliss. But it’s not an equation that will solve itself. You have to get involved and be proactive in improving your own sex life. Do it not only for your relationship, but for yourself.