Anxiety performance
I’ve already mentioned the ‘fight or flight response’ here. When you get too anxious, the release of stress hormones constricts peripheral circulation so that blood can get to your vital organs (heart, lungs) more rapidly. The penis is not a vital organ. In fact, the last thing you need when you’re facing a dangerous/stressful situation (e.g. involved in a fight or escaping a lion) is an erection!
Depression and mood fluctuations can also cause ED. Erections start in the brain and if the brain isn’t working properly, your sexual performance will suffer. To make matters even more complicated, most antidepressants (e.g. SSRIs) can actually cause or worsen ED. There are exceptions, though: Stablon (tianeptine) and Wellbutrin are considered safe and have no sexual side effects.
So, how do you control anxiety and improve your mood? Everyone is different, but I suggest you take these simple steps:
a) A penis ring could be helpful. It’s uncomfortable and your partner will see it, but it’s very effective: your erections will become harder and last longer. The penis ring constricts the blood vessels near the surface of the penis that drain blood out of the shaft, but it doesn’t constrict the arteries that bring blood into the penis to form an erection. You should put the ring before the erection but don’t wear it for more than 30 minutes.
b) Try to find a position that favours penetration. The woman on top position is a good one so that she can control things and You don’t have to focus on penetration.
c) Putting a condom is always an awkward moment and many men lose their erection because of that. So, if you’re using a condom, tell your woman to put it on you. Problem solved.
d) Good communication and a supportive partner are essential, of course.
e) Oral meds are very effective but you should only take them under the supervision of your doctor. Viagra is not the only solution, there’s also Cialis, Levitra.
(You don’t HAVE to take all these drugs, of course; consult your doctor first and see which one is the best option for you)
f) Finally, try not to worry too much. This problem is extremely common and easily treatable, I’m sure you will overcome this.
I hope this helps. Good luck!!!
