ASK Wunmi

Q: “Although I reach orgasm most easily through oral sex, my husband seems to oblige me only reluctantly. How can I get him to be more into it?

A: You have more wind at your back here than you realize. A recent study of middle-age couples found that one of the most important predictors of a man’s happiness in a relationship was his ability to make his partner climax. So if you make it clear that this particular technique is your ticket to the top, he’s likely to cooperate.
“Try saying, ‘I get really turned on when you do this, and I’d love you to do it more often, Also, don’t assume he’s begrudging you; maybe he’s a little insecure about his performance. Again, he’ll probably appreciate specific feedback, and few things are more of a turn-on for a man than watching a woman become turned on. Finally, suggest any changes that might make oral sex more appealing to him, like trimming your pubic hair or trying a new position that’s more comfortable for him. “A give-and-take is the best way to remove any defensiveness and get him to open up.