HOW TO REGAIN LOST HARD ON

Want to know what to do if you suddenly lose your hard-on in bed?

How much more frustrating can it get?

You get your lover into bed, things are going well, you get hard and you start having fun together…

But then suddenly you lose your hard-on.

You get frustrated, she gets frustrated and then suddenly frustration turns to panic.

“What if I can’t get hard again?”

“What am I going to do?”

“Oh my God, I’m losing even more of my hard-on – I’ve got to fix this fast!”

As I’ve discussed before, thoughts that lend themselves to fear do not support you in getting hard.

In fact, they have the opposite effect.

Feeling fearful, anxious or nervous KILLS your body’s ability to get hard.

So if you ever start to lose your hard-on and you spot yourself experiencing what I’ve just talked about, here’s what you need to do…

Do whatever it takes to regain your composure.

Realize that a temporary loss of hardness is not the end of the world.

In fact, it’s natural to experience some variation in your overall hardness.

So if you do start to lose a bit of hardness, don’t worry.

Just take a breath, relax and then shift your focus.

Take your focus away from how you’re performing and instead focus on making her feel great.

Forget about how hard you are and instead make it about her.

That could mean to focus on kissing, it could mean focussing on stimulating her physically somehow like performing oral or anything else to make her feel great.

And when you do any of these things, allow yourself to become absorbed in the process of making her feel great.

Become immersed in the act of giving her pleasure.

And what you’ll find if you really commit to this is that after a few minutes your hardness will naturally return.

Why?

Because when you move outside of yourself to focus on her and when you become deeply identified with her pleasure YOU will start to become more aroused as well.

For example, when you’re giving her oral and you’re deeply in tune with how her body’s feeling, you practically can’t help but get hard yourself because your experiencing her arousal with her.

Also, doing this takes your mind away from all the worrying and fear.

It’s very effective and it’s a strategy I highly recommend you begin using if you ever find yourself losing hardness at any point during love-making.

Now, I will say that this strategy is only one of many.

There are others and there are way more ADVANCED strategies that are even more effective at giving yourself control over your ability to get and stay hard.